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Meta Model is one of the most important topic taught in Neuro Linguistic Programming courses.
Complex Equivalence is one of the NLP Meta Model patterns.
Meta Model are a set of questions that are asked to enable a person to recognise that a perception he is carrying may not always be true.
Thereby making him aware that his thought patterns of the reality is simply his perception of reality and not the reality.
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Complex equivalence is one of the several patterns that comes under the topic of Meta Model.
In my (Abhay Thhhakkar) opinion, one of the most important language patterns that a person must learn, during NLP courses, is complex equivalence.
The reason being that complex equivalence is a language pattern that also reflects a person's belief. One of the keys to create a transformation in a person's life is to change a person's limiting belief.
Hence, it is taught in transformative NLP courses.
Complex equivalence is a language pattern that reflects a person's belief of reality which may not be true.
The belief gets expressed in a manner of "A=B", wherein "A" and "B" are two different components and the person has equated both of them.
Example, "He did not reply to my message, it means that he is angry with me".
In the above example, "A" is "he did not reply to my message" and "B" is "he is angry with me". While this may be true in certain situations, it may not always be true.
Hence, it is a distortion of the reality.
Hence, with meta model questions, we can ask:
"How specifically does him not replying to your message means that he is angry with you?"
Thereby making him aware that "A" does not neccesarily mean "B". Therefore his belief can be a distortion of the reality and is not a reality.
Complex Equivalences in NLP are the beliefs that the person holds on the basis of his or her own interpretations of his or her experiences. The person relates or equates two unrelated experiences together.
Hence, they become a filter that introduce a great amount of divergence between the objective and the perceived reality.
In fact, the person tends to relate things that may not even be logical. Usually, this kind of reasoning is very common among people. They are also the cognitive shortcuts that we use to look at the world as if it was through our own lenses.
Complex equivalence is often taught in NLP courses in India as a form of distortion of reality, however it is also considered as a generalisation created by a person.
In fact, most generalisations are a distortion of reality itself, is it not?
Example: "People do not listen to me".
Although this may be true in certain situations because it stems from a certain set of experiences, it may not always be true. Hence the person has distorted the reality. Now his thoughts, emotions and actions will be based on this. Thereby it could limit his experience of living his life fully.
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Thoughts and feelings are frequently based on complex equivalencies. They influence our perception of reality and are a component of our internal model of the universe.
In essence, when someone uses a complex equivalence, they are stating that ‘A=B’.
These ideas could be limiting or enhancing.
Limiting beliefs often hamper an individual from achieving their highest potential. These lead us to draw unhelpful conclusions that affect our behaviours and emotions.
Counter examples are a method of challenging a person's belief.
Counter examples are a part of the topic of 'Sleight of Mouth' language patterns, that are often taught in NLP training courses, specifically NLP Master Practitioner course.
Counter examples is a method of challenging limiting beliefs by presenting facts where these assumptions are false. Hence, interrupt a loop of negative thought pattern.
When someone assumes, for instance, "She didn't call me back so she mustn't care about me," they are likely making a mistaken inference of some kind in this instance. We can refute such reasoning with a few counter examples.
A counter example might be, for instance, "Recall an instance when you couldn’t answer someone's call. Did you imply that you had no affection for them?"
Hence, it helps the individual realise that their beliefs might not always be accurate.
Another example would be, "My partner doesn't love me because they don't show affection in public."
A counter example that would be helpful here is, "Is it really true that only people who show affection publicly love their partners?
It has been observed that challenging these kinds of mental shortcuts creates room for other ways of thinking.
Hence, it encourages healthier, more adaptable ways of seeing the world and interrupts the loop of limiting beliefs.
Inquiries begin, and different explanations are explored in an effort to rewire the minds to cease making quick judgments that may not be accurate overall.
Hence, learning Neuro Linguistic Programming is a worthwile investment.
Transformative NLP international is an NLP training organisation in Mumbai, India founded and headed by Abhay Thakkar who has received training and been mentored by various co-creators of NLP and provides international certification for NLP courses in India and abroad.
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